Psychotic P***y Podcast
Just two sisters discussing women’s mental and physical health. It's not only our hobby, but our careers. We want to shed light on important topics & teach people new things every episode.
Psychotic P***y Podcast
From Breaking Points to Breaking Free: The Reality of American Motherhood
A groundbreaking study confirms what many have suspected: mothers in America are experiencing a mental health crisis. The data reveals a sharp decline in maternal wellbeing since 2016, with one in twelve moms rating their mental health as fair or poor. For single mothers and those with children on Medicaid or uninsured, the situation is even more dire.
Modern motherhood has become a perfect storm of challenges. Despite the appearance of connection through social media, many mothers feel profoundly isolated. The traditional "village" that once supported new parents has largely disappeared, replaced by inconveniently scheduled "mommy meetups" that few can actually attend. Meanwhile, women continue to shoulder the majority of childcare and household responsibilities, even when working full-time.
The conversation shifts to the financial reality of millennial divorce, where ending a marriage can cost upwards of six figures. This staggering price tag forces couples to make difficult choices – some remain legally married while living separate lives, others move back in with family members. Women are particularly vulnerable in these situations, as courts often fail to account for the gender pay gap and unpaid care work when dividing assets.
On a more hopeful note, recent research published in the New England Journal of Medicine demonstrates that structured exercise programs can significantly improve outcomes for cancer patients. For those with colon cancer, activities as simple as brisk walking for 45 minutes several days a week can reduce the risk of recurrence by 28% – comparable to the effectiveness of some medications.
From maternal mental health to divorce economics to cancer survival, this episode explores the challenges we face and the science-backed solutions that offer hope. Join us for a candid conversation about navigating life's most difficult transitions and finding strength in unexpected places.
Disclaimer: This podcast represents the opinions of Dr. Bridget Melton, MD and licensed therapist Marissa Volinsky, MS, LPC, NCC. The contents of our podcast and website should not be taken as medical advice. The contents of our podcast and website are for general informational purposes only, and are not intended to diagnose, treat, prevent, or cure any condition or disease or substitute for medical advice. Always seek the advice of your physician, mental health professional, or other qualified health care provider with any questions you may have regarding a medical condition or treatment and before starting or discontinuing treatment.
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welcome back to episode. We're just laughing, I mean great episode six of psychotic py podcast. We have a lot to talk about this week, so let's get going virgin yay, welcome to episode six.
Speaker 2:Wait, sorry, that was a crunch of a pillow.
Speaker 1:I'll move the pillow nobody heard that, but now you just made it awkward, sorry, I don't want to.
Speaker 2:I don't want my sound to be flustered, okay, um. So yay, we're so excited. Oh, my god, I just realized it's june. Is that not the summer?
Speaker 1:I turned pretty month yes, at the end of the month oh my god guys.
Speaker 2:Happy june, happy the summer. I turned pretty final season everyone.
Speaker 1:Oh my god, I'm so you better end up with conrad or I will rage, fire hells we're team connie, right?
Speaker 2:yeah, we're team connie, baby I although jeremiah should be like a good friend forever, he's, yeah, I think he will be, because I mean, they're practically like cousins.
Speaker 1:Also funny side story we were talking about this yesterday, me and mom. She was acting as if she knew these people and this was like a literal family that she summers she's seen this show, yeah she's making for the season three and she was just like you know what. That girl is just messing with those boys. That is not right.
Speaker 2:She should not be ping-ponging and I'm like it's a storyline, okay, she should not be ping-ponging, though can we just say belly girl, get your shiz together? You can't.
Speaker 1:You can maybe fuck with friends a little bit, not brothers, yeah my mom how mom was saying it was like such a close relationship. They were more like cousins. So it looks it's even worse because obviously you're always going to be with these people yeah, oh no, yeah, mom was like not having it. She's like I love the show, but my god, why does she jump back and forth?
Speaker 2:The heart wants what it wants, jerry, I know, but who wouldn't? Connie's got the steaminess, but Jeremiah like personality and like so funny, so cute.
Speaker 1:Yeah, like Jeremiah makes me laugh, but that moody, broody thing that Connie's got, ugh.
Speaker 2:I know Also, the star of the show is their mother, who lives the dream life.
Speaker 1:Unfortunately, she died of cancer.
Speaker 2:Oh, yeah, I forgot. Oh shit, yeah, rip, that does happen in season two. I forgot.
Speaker 1:Right, susan Is her name. Susan, I have no idea.
Speaker 2:Susan died. Oh my god, so sad. I forgot that. It's been so long that I couldn't even remember. Yeah.
Speaker 1:Anyway, not the point of our podcast, sorry, no.
Speaker 2:We got off there, okay. So, yes, welcome to the podcast. But we are talking about mamas today and mental health. So, as they say in the news, the moms are not all right and there's new data to prove it. So there was a major study and it talks about moms in the US and there's been a sharp drop in mental health since 2016.
Speaker 2:Just a quick little side note if anyone's had a baby or if you work in healthcare, you know that when you go for your six-week checkup, they give you, like the Edinburgh, postpartum depression screening. This should be standard. So if you've had a baby and you went to your six-week checkup and you didn't get the screening, you better mention it. And it just helps gauge if you think you have. It's just a questionnaire Do you think you're more anxious than usual? Are you more stressed than usual? Are you having anger? Are you crying more than usual? Do you feel lonely? All this stuff and a lot of it is like typical, like you might be lonelier. That's fine. That doesn't mean you have postpartum depression, but it's a culmination of all the symptoms. So just that's how we gauge it, just so everyone knows.
Speaker 2:So, among nearly 200,000 mothers with children under 18, one in 12, so one in 12 moms rated their mental health as fair or poor. Single moms, no surprise. And those with kids on Medicaid or uninsured are the worst, because they're obviously living in constant fear. If your kid is uninsured or on Medicaid and for single moms, you have not a minute to yourself, I don't think ever um, so um.
Speaker 2:The number of moms who said their mental health was excellent also has plummeted. Dads also saw a decline, but not nearly as bad as moms. So the study did not follow the same women over time, but experts say that the trend is striking and noticeable and we need to do something about it. So, and it's very validating for moms everywhere who, I think I've been saying for a while, like you know, we're not okay, and now I think people feel a lot more comfortable because of social media. Probably Social media says like it's okay to speak up. Also, we're seeing, you know, moms from Denmark and moms from Sweden who get a year paid maternity leave and you know, help and spousal support and all this stuff, and you're like, oh shit, like we are so far behind.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, absolutely. We're so far behind. It's embarrassing, yeah.
Speaker 2:So researchers are trying to theorize why this is happening and they think maybe you know. Inflation, obviously because you have added stress of budgeting, substance use disorders, loneliness, which we've talked about a lot, and then racism and climate change. I think all these things are just stressors. What do we call them? Aces, adverse childhood experiences and stuff All these added stressors in your life. They just culminate and now you have a baby and you're tired and you're alone and yeah, it's very, very sad. So many women also carry the bulk of caregiving and housework. Even fully employed moms tend to do most of that work and they do it without paid family leave and mental health care itself. So there's a therapist shortage and the costs and scheduling, so you can't even get help, even if you're asking for it.
Speaker 1:So there we go. It's rough out there for mothers, let me tell you. I mean, all of this definitely would explain why things are not going in the right direction for mothers and and what they're reporting it doesn't shock me at all. I think, now that we have social media, we are kind of creating our own village. That is definitely you know we have a lack of these days, but also sometimes I feel like that can still be isolating because it's not like a in real life IRL village, right Like it's still through a screen.
Speaker 1:I mean I know there's mommy meetups and stuff, but not everyone can go right. It's sometimes, it's hard.
Speaker 2:Okay, yeah, I have such a like. I love the idea of a mommy meetup, but I actually do not physically understand, like, how people do it. I've done one one ever Because, let's say, they're always like, let's say, wednesday at 10am or something. It's like an impossible time. Also, like when you have a very young baby and that's when you actually need it the most. Like they're not newborns anymore, but they're so young that you're like I haven't seen anyone in days. They are literally like it's your window of opportunity for that mommy meetup is so narrow. What are the odds that it's that hour that the mommy meetup is taking part? Right, like it just never works.
Speaker 1:Nope, I know, I agree. I honestly I probably went to only one too.
Speaker 2:I don't know many moms who actually make it work, because I feel, like anyone that I know that's given birth is like, oh yeah, like I like the concept, but but, like time wise, it's not gonna really work out for me no, that's why I think the best thing is, if you have like a small group of even if they're only acquaintances, but now you get closer because you have kids you can just text the group and be like, no, that doesn't work, that doesn't work. How about this day, this time, and you do a little poll and you're, you get that day. That's what I do with my book club, because we're all young moms, like you know what I mean.
Speaker 1:You got lucky because your neighborhood is obviously young people. We have definitely like an older crowd on our street, but I mean they're great for other things you know, like being like that dad or grandpa for you. You know they have all the tools that you could ever need to borrow, which is great, and obviously they have more experience with homeowning. So if we have questions, john's like, let me ask joe, because I don't know what the hell I'm doing. But uh, other than that I would say it's a bit lonely.
Speaker 1:I mean, obviously now bridges, you've seen they've expanded a bit and obviously newer families have come in, but I feel like there's still that separation because those families that moved in got close, because they all I don't know they're, they have the same home builder I don't mind is the other one that left the area and I don't know. I just feel like they all, just the same way that us and the older generation on our street all kind of had this camaraderie thing going on, and so now I feel like I missed the boat on that, even though I know I could just walk 500 feet down and just be social. But that's the thing. I'm not the social sister, so I don't want to do that.
Speaker 2:You know what you should do Throw a fucking rager.
Speaker 1:You know what's funny? I think about that all the time. Like you know how, on Bad Moms, the first original movie ever, she starts getting like a lot of friends because she's just like you know what, fuck it, I'm gonna do whatever the fuck I want. She's just like, skips all parent teacher conference meetings, has this big rager at her house where moms are like, yeah, let loose. And I'm like, should I do that? Is that? Is that just for movies?
Speaker 2:no, you should. The best thing about a being a homeowner and b being an adult is you can actually throw a party whenever you want. You're not like is mom out of town.
Speaker 1:I am the mom, so you're telling me, you're giving me the green light to throw a mom rager, I think that would be so cool, actually, you know what's even cooler. If I invite people from down the street, I know that three of them have cop husbands. Does that mean if we have noise complaints, they'll ignore it? There will be no noise complaints.
Speaker 2:Will they delete them as they come in? Yeah, oh my. Will they delete them as they come in? Yeah, oh my god. That would be so cool.
Speaker 1:Oh my god, throw this party like I'm, I'm nervous, like what if I throw it? But it's like me, oh, I mean then, they're done.
Speaker 2:That girl you've thrown a rager and no one showed up. That's not a, that's a story for another day. It wasn't at my house, but you fucking tell me right now. You tell all of our listeners, you tell them it.
Speaker 2:No, I'm not going to name the name, but in high school uh, we were only freshmen is like still one of my best friends now, and it was she.
Speaker 2:It wasn't like we were like, oh, let's throw a rager, but like you know, when you're in the first month of high school and like everyone wants to throw parties just because you're like we're in high school and that's how you make friends, whatever, so she very casually was like hey, like I'm gonna have some people over and she lives in a good neighborhood, so like people from our school live nearby and um, it was literally just like so last minute that everyone like messaged and they're friends of ours, genuine, like conflicts of interest, like I have practiced till whatever time.
Speaker 2:Like a lot, it was fall, so a lot of guys were on the football team. One of the girls we cheered with um like hadn't moved yet. She lived far away, still, um, because she was originally coming down from like st john viennese, like where she would have gone to high school. So she lived up there still and she was like no, like I'm you know, we're 14, like we don't have our license anyway, all this stuff. So we were like, oh shit, like no one and her mom like bought us cookies, like we put cookies on a tray and we just sat there so cute.
Speaker 1:It's actually really cute and sad. I know jerry's gonna listen to this and be like I knew I shouldn't let her go.
Speaker 2:She lied no, I just hung out at this girl's house and then we ended up like going to the boardwalk with like a guy friend and he's like, oh, weren't you throwing a party tonight?
Speaker 1:and we're like, oh, no, no, we're not shut up. It's girls night, so that's why we're here, though like at least I could like say if that happened at 14, it's in the past now. But like you know how moms have like we were just talking about, moms have conflicts, like moms might want to go, but then they can't. Their kid's sick babysitter drops out, husband can't handle shit and texts them non-stop. What happens if, like they're like, yeah, I'm going, and then five minutes before they're like not happening.
Speaker 2:Sorry, what you do is you put an RSVP. Adults are pretty like beholden to the RSVP, not moms. Have you met moms? Yeah Well, I. Oh guys, let us know, should Marissa throw a little mom rager?
Speaker 1:Can you please put this as a question on our Instagram.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I will.
Speaker 1:Oh my god, it'd be so no, what's gonna be embarrassing is is if I actually have to do it because you get a lot of guesses. And then I'm like, well, shit, it's the summer, girl, tis the season, the podcast mid-rager like everybody say hey, oh, my god, she's missing out.
Speaker 2:Oh, no wait, no, do it in august oh god, that would be cool.
Speaker 1:Anyway, like let me know if, like, you've all seen bad moms and you want to have a mom rager, like let's do it. My house is your house. Yeah ditch those kids ditch, those kids ditch that should be the hashtag after you ask the question hashtag ditch those kids.
Speaker 2:Um. What else I want to talk about, though? About like mental health, and because you know how there's a pro-natalist movement with like trad wives and trying to get like make america pregnant again, but what we're seeing is people our age who are like dinks, are like no, like we've seen what it's done to our friends, like we don't want that life, and I'm like more power to you, like you might be making them ready to rest, and they're saying, like you know because I think they were talking about giving like a $5,000, a one-off $5,000 bonus if you have a baby and people are like that's not what we need, though. Like what we need, though. Like what we need is like health care, like maternal mental health care and maternal health care. Like if you want us to have kids, we need to be supported by our government and supported by our community.
Speaker 2:Like a one-time five thousand dollar. Like I have a really good friends who are going through the IVF process right now, and he, he, you know, we were hanging out in New York last month and he literally was like uh, what the fuck? Like he's like fuck your $5,000. Like you have no idea how much this shit costs. Like he's like seriously, five grand, that's a drop in the bucket, like what we need is like care.
Speaker 1:Yeah.
Speaker 2:Daycare, mental health care, like you know, what I mean.
Speaker 1:Yeah, no, $5,000 is not going to get you very far, especially because most deductibles anyway like. So our deductible for both kids is $2,500. So, like you know, for people who do pay those off, wink, wink, like that's, there's half your five gone, I know.
Speaker 2:So it's just like I think we are living in a time where people are more informed and they're like I don't want to have kids, just because that feels like the next step. I'd rather be like taking vacations when I want, going to eat when I want, not worrying about scheduling a babys. On your health, you have to get used to your new level of fitness, used to your new body, used to you are never coming first again. Yeah, that's really hard sometimes. I one time held my pee. It was very recent, I'm saying I one time. It was literally like three days ago. I held my pee for like four hours. I forgot I had to go because you yeah.
Speaker 2:You tiny bladder bridge in our family, wow, but like moms, you know, like you, you you're like, oh, I have to pee, not right now, because I'm doing this, I'm doing this now, I'm doing this. I finally put him to bed and I was like, I still have to pee, like you, just you don't have time. And that is why maternal mental health is so fucking bad, because you really have to, like, grapple with this new life and it's never the same, correct and like.
Speaker 1:I feel like, in order to have the help that you need, you have to be well off, because it all costs big bucks, so which it shouldn't be. I mean, like, you want us to have more babies, but like, where's the support? Why do I have to grovel at your?
Speaker 2:feet for it for like bare minimum pennies yeah, so it's an interesting time that we're living in, um, you know, with this whole trad wife thing.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I don't know how I I have nothing against it. Again, I don't care how people live. That's never been my problem. It's like I don't like when people start pushing it right and then judge you for what you choose. That's where I'm like okay, take a step back, betty. Okay, betty Crocker, get out of here.
Speaker 2:So they're using. They're using these very young cause they're all young, the trad wives like younger than me. They're using these young influencers basically to push the pro-natalist movement. So they're trying to like, slowly undermine, like the women in the workforce thing. That's my problem with it. If you want to do it personally, you're like I've always wanted to be a mom, fine, but don't then undermine, like the equal rights act and right, because there are plenty of women who do not want to be moms. Don't fuck it up, for them.
Speaker 1:There's a sensitive whole area of people who do but can't. So what?
Speaker 2:Because they can't, they're now useless to to the yeah yeah, yeah, because they're not like following their divine calling or something. Yeah, no, I that's.
Speaker 1:That's my problem with it we're kind of crossing into handmaid's tale a bit. We're kind of this the story. I've heard this before, I've heard this before. Oh god, I need to watch that. Last season, okay I'm, I'm like on four, episode four.
Speaker 1:So I don't want to ruin anything and don't spoil anything for me if you've gone further, but okay, next subject. But, um, yeah, no, I think, like you do you, that's fine. What I will say, though, from my experience with you talking about um, tried wives and even being younger than you, right, I will say this is not the first time in history that that's happened, and I'm not saying because of our grandparents, grandparents, whatever. When I met my husband, john and he was in the Marines that remember Bridget I would tell you stories of the women there Like these were women who were married at 17, 18, all the way up to 21. Some already had two babies by 21, 22. The difference back then less social social media, and it wasn't like it was pushed by influencers or the government, it was just military life culture, basically right um, but I feel like it never truly went away.
Speaker 1:It was always there because I always felt like I lived a double life with john. I would go down there and I was the weird girl for being in college and wanting to have a career and not being married, and they were all like girl, what are you doing? Just live on base, give up your life for this man and I'm like no, thank you. Oh, no thanks.
Speaker 2:That sounds horrible yeah, I think it could be very, um, isolating and you feel trapped at that age because you didn't carve out a little place in the world for yourself yet. And if you carve out that place and then you decide to ditch it, that's your prerogative, you're an adult. But if you never carved out that place, where do you go? If god forbid you divorce or he dies or whatever?
Speaker 1:that's a bit unnerving well, what's even scarier is, at least from our whole experience, there is only I want, I want to say one, maybe two, no, I think one, only one couple out of the many we were in a group with that actually stayed married to the first military partner. Wow. So it shows you that, like that's not, you were, you were babies, you didn't even know you yet and you decided to create a whole last family. Are you sure?
Speaker 2:Babies, having babies.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 2:Oh, that segues perfectly into our next topic Millennial divorce.
Speaker 1:Oh yeah, millennial divorce.
Speaker 2:You know what I actually think about, like all the time, because I'm 30. Like I've been to a million weddings in the last few years. Like in a decade I think I'm going to get invited to a lot of divorce parties.
Speaker 1:It's inevitable, no matter what generation you grew up in.
Speaker 2:Yes, I kind of can't wait just to be like oh, not that I want anyone's marriage.
Speaker 1:No, but because of social media they're pretty lit now Like wear the wedding dress and burn it. You know they're like lit as hell. Please invite me.
Speaker 2:Like do do you and John have like in your head, like the probabilities that a couple is going to fail or not? Like do you talk about?
Speaker 1:it. I wouldn't say number statistically wise, but do. John and I have good perception of who's perfectly matched and who isn't absolutely.
Speaker 2:We're usually spot on oh, so you've, you've called some divorces oh my god, yeah I'm not there yet because no one's gotten divorced. But ted and I like have we don't like discuss it in depth, but like we'll be, like they're not gonna make it, and like we say, like they'll be married for like a decade maybe, maybe less. So I just kind of like I can't wait to see things come to fruition yeah, I know it's fucked up, is that? Their demise.
Speaker 1:Fuck, I know, I know it sounds really bad, but it's kind of nice to be like we were right there is always that one couple, though, that really gets us like um, like they're still married, happily, we think, and we're like really oh, interesting, caught us there, you know there are uh couples like that, yeah yeah that's oh no I mean me and john's generation.
Speaker 1:But I'm like, I know what you're saying, but yeah, but yeah, no, I'm just, they shock you and I don't know if it's just like the sheer bond of agreeing not to divorce that keeps them together, but, uh, or their pure hatred of having to go back in the dating world. They're like now, fuck this I don't know.
Speaker 2:They actually dislike each other, though, or is their relationship just dysfunctional, but it works for them, maybe, I think maybe it's dysfunctional.
Speaker 1:It works for them. I do think they love each other, but it's very dysfunctional. I would have thought, though, see, the thing is is what you you do see is dysfunction could take it. It takes its toll, right, and 15 years into the marriage maybe 20 if you can last that long eventually one of the parties that goes I deserve better, or peace. I don't want anything, but I just want peace. You know, um, but I'm just. It's just miraculous that they're just like. They're like saints man. They're just little go-getters.
Speaker 2:Oh my God, we're going to talk about this when we're done recording. I want to know who it is. I want the tea Right. So we're talking about divorce. We're talking about millennials, which you know. Millennials are the first generation ever to like help bring the divorce rate to at least like a slight plateau, but it's not, you know, stopping People still get divorced, but we're the first generation to minimize it slightly. So you need to save up for a divorce.
Speaker 2:We all know that Business Insider today I read this in the news today reports that divorces cost millennials upwards of six figures. It's so expensive that a lot of people can't afford to live in their cities anymore. So we're talking like New York, chicago, la, major cities. People are moving out of the cities and moving in with family again. They're moving back home, even if you're like 30s, 40s, probably in your 40s, because divorces are so expensive they are.
Speaker 2:So other couples are choosing to stay legally married while living their single lives rather than pay for divorce lawyers. So Pew Research found that 77% of partnered adults were doing at least okay financially, compared to 64% of people without partners. So what we know is, if you are partnering, you tend to do better financially because you're pooling resources just basic math, like the two of you buying a house versus one single person, or one income buying a house. That can really fuck you up. Yep. So a family attorney said when people get a divorce, they're cutting their net worth in half. You're cutting it in half, just accept it. And that obviously hits especially hard for women, since courts don't always take the gender pay gap and unpaid care work into account when dividing assets or awarding spousal support and childcare. So many boomers who divorced often had more financial stability, but millennials face a different reality, um, especially because we marry later and there's more to lose yes um, so yeah, the divorce decline, hopefully will have, will happen.
Speaker 1:And they say um quote till debt do us part I mean, yeah, things are definitely not great in the economy right now, so this, none of this shocks me, would you?
Speaker 2:financially speaking now cause you have children, would you, if you were ever in this position, stay legally married just to avoid the huge hit to the, to the income and the money flow to you know, your kids and stuff?
Speaker 1:No, but only because I feel the. I feel, see, this would be different if I married somebody else. But I think, because I married a partner who would still be a very present father and make sure he paid, like the child support he needed to to make sure our kids had the same lifestyle, if anything like, even though this is a very like grim topic to talk about, me and john are still very open about it. Again, no plans to divorce at all, but like we are still like to talk about things like what ifs, you know, just in case, and we are pretty much very much on the same page. Like he's like you would absolutely get the house or whatever house you're in at the time. Like the kids need stability. You're the mother keep the house, I don't want it.
Speaker 1:Um, he's like obviously we still want to keep them in the good Catholic schools. So whatever that needs from me, you've got it. Like he's still like whatever they need I don't want to interrupt the sports. They're in the schools, they're in their routine, so like, but I married a good person, not everyone. Some people marry spiteful people, you know. Like they are like how, how, which way can I fuck you left and right, which they don't realize. You're just hurting the children. If there are kids, you know.
Speaker 2:Yes, so I mean again, no plans to divorce. But Ted and I have discussed it that, like we would, in order to not divide assets, we would basically just live separate lives in the same home. So our kids would not like nesting, like they say. So like the kids don't move, but like you might, um, you know, rent an apartment if someone needs to get away and you leave, but the kids stay and everything. So, um, yeah, like I think, if money was, if money was not an issue at all and we needed to get legally divorced, we would. But if money was, like you know, going to be cut in half and we're in like a sticky situation at the time, we have said like we would just stay legally married and like I would just redo the guest room and get my, my bachelorette suite.
Speaker 1:You're like, don't mind me, ted Jorge's just coming over, let him in.
Speaker 2:Sorry, ted, because it's I mean, it's. It's interesting though, like I mean, if you have a good relationship you can talk about these things. But you just think you know, especially with children, you don't want the division of assets in a way that is going to negatively affect your children's future. Obviously, everything you have you want to leave to your kids.
Speaker 1:Correct.
Speaker 2:So you don't want to lose it to divorce.
Speaker 1:Like you said earlier when you introduced this topic, you're not just losing assets, you're dividing resources as well, like childcare topic.
Speaker 2:You're not just losing assets you're.
Speaker 1:You you're dividing resources as well, like child care. So like, if you still can't co parent and be a good team player, you're really screwing yourself to your kids and yourself because you're going to be a slave to the childcare that if you can't like, communicate and divide properly.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's so tricky to think about. Oh my God, I actually feel really bad for people now. Um, like you'll be doing probably double the like. Let's say, now there's two places to clean. Now you're arranging pickup in not very nice way A lot of times in divorce cause you're not like, oh no, I'll get them this. Like you're like you get them this day. You know it doesn't work for me. Oh well, fuck you, it's your time. So you're doing like double the scheduling, double housework. Oh my God, so stressful. Yeah, so they're saying it really affects millennial women more than anyone, because the women, as you've said, you do all the scheduling and stuff like that for your family. So now you're doing double the admin work. Plus, you're trying to like clean the house without any partner. No help, now You're living there alone. So, yeah, to add it to the list of the moms are not all right Now, mothers who are divorced.
Speaker 1:Oh God, well, I mean, I get it, though I mean the topic, definitely I get it. Like you said, we're getting married later, except for the whole tribe wife phenomena. But we're getting married later so we have more. You know, our careers are further along or we have more assets. We're used to also, you know, being more like we could have more freedom or career, women, this, that, whatever. So it's like yeah, I mean it does take a hit financially. And yeah, so it's like yeah, I mean it does take a hit financially.
Speaker 2:Yeah, In celebrity news Offset asked for spousal support from Cardi B. She makes way more than him Wow.
Speaker 1:Read that yesterday. Wow Dang, yeah, did it work, did it happen.
Speaker 2:I don't know. I don't know what he's going to be awarded, but I assume the children will live primarily with her, so it doesn't really have a lot of grounds to stand on for spousal support.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I mean, if you're not primary caretaker, why do you need?
Speaker 2:that To uphold the life he was used to living. I mean you're beat kid, I know it's. It's interesting because they're not necessities, you know what I mean. You're both celebrities, so the money he makes, even if it's like a fraction of what she makes, is still more than the average person. So you have enough to live. Yes, we'll see what happens, but we live in a crazy world now where you celebrities can now ask for that even though they both have careers. That is crazy. Wow, both have careers.
Speaker 2:That is crazy, wow. And now we're mixing it up completely. To wrap this up, we are talking about exercise improving your chances of survival and remission in people with colon cancer. Nice, love that switch up. I know Such a switch up. So the New England Journal of Medicine just published an article, and it was discussed at the oncology conference in Chicago just this past week. So doctors can now definitively say that exercise will significantly reduce the risk of colon cancer returning in patients after treatment.
Speaker 2:So these participants were all colon cancer late stage two or stage three. They all had surgery and then chemo, and then part of their treatment plan they were randomized. Half of them, I think it was like 441 and then 450. So half went to no exercise. The other half went into an exercise routine. The important thing, though, is to know that these people were working with trainers or physiotherapists or kinesiologists, so it was one of the you know, one of the three. So they were assisted exercise programs where they asked you specifically what you enjoy. So it was a tailor-made program to help you stick with it.
Speaker 1:Okay.
Speaker 2:So that's important to know is that they did have help from trainers, um, but ones that randomize into the exercise group. Exercise was as useful as some drugs, so you could reduce the risk of cancer returning, a new cancer diagnosis or even death by 28% reduction. It's statistically significant. And now they're saying, because what you see is, after people undergo chemo and surgery they're like you know, what else can I do? And it used to just be like, oh, you know, just keep up a healthy lifestyle. And now doctors can definitively say actually a structured exercise program can improve your overall survival, which is so interesting. I love reading about this stuff. What else was it? Oh, so they most people did about a 45 minute to an hour brisk walk four to five days a week. That was one of the main exercises which we always say walking is so good for humans, um, but yeah, so it's very important to know that. You know you can see reduction in. So in these patients they had reduced chances of developing like breast cancer later on as well.
Speaker 1:Wow.
Speaker 2:That's amazing. I know it's so interesting, I love it. So just to keep in mind, guys, if you are battling any chronic diseases, usually a structured exercise program does help. If you're not physically disabled and you're able to do it, you should try it. Especially a little morning walk, the sun good for your serotonin in the morning, beautiful, great exercise. So it's good to know. Anything else to discuss today. I'm going to put your poll up right now. I should throw a rager. Should I throw a rager?
Speaker 1:I don't think anything on my end. I feel like this was successful guys. What do you think? I think so, of course. We ended with the colon. You know, got to end with the ass. What we ended with the colon nudes.
Speaker 2:Oh yes, Everything goes through the book.
Speaker 1:Oh, with your ass up Anyway. So, bridget, just like shaking right. Um, anyway, still that sister not gonna get rid of me her elevator waiting room music as she puts our post up yeah, sorry, guys.
Speaker 2:So thank you so much for joining us. Episode six of this season, season three yep, yep, it's been a great time so far, so we're happy to have you here. Tell us what you wanted to talk about, um, what you want us to talk about? Sorry, and I am going to put a poll. Should versa throw a rager? And thank you so much for tuning in all righty.
Speaker 1:have a great week, guys. Bye, bye.